Protect Your Children from Divorce Conflict

Children need at least one steadfast, unconditional,

safe parent

Develop confidence in your parenting ability - permissive parenting is not what kids need.

3. Take Emotional Responsibility

Develop healthy coping mechanisms - don't use your kids as an emotional crutch

Make the best decisions for your kids - so 3rd parties don't have to. 

1. Be the Safe Parent

2. Trust Yourself

4. Maintain Your
Agency

 

1. Be the Safe Parent

Research indicates:

as long as children have at least 1 parent who provides a stable, loving, safe environment, the child has a better chance of recovering from the divorce.

 

3 factors that will impact your child's well-being:

1.  Conflict: intensity & duration.

2.  Parenting: Quality over time.

3.  Parent-Child relationship: Quality over time

LOW exposure to conflict + Unconditional love & support +

Strong parent-child bond =

Your kid can do their one & only job = JUST BEING a KID!

Trish can help you:

  • navigate & make sense of your emotions.

  • walk you through common parenting issues you may face.

  • strategize on how to handle them.

2. Trust Yourself

"Walk into the room like you own the place"

This is what you need to do when you are parenting in a family of divorce.

 

Not only will you doubt your parenting skills but others will too.

Expect your ex-spouse to criticize, judge, doubt & undermine your parenting skills too.

 

Your child needs you to be in control and for you to be their rock.

 Children crave stability and consistency. That's the type of parenting you need to provide.

 

Your child needs YOU to be the ADULT so THEY can be the CHILD.

 

Trish can help you:

  • gain confidence in your parenting ability

  • gain confidence in your decision making

  • develop clarity on the values you want to instill in your children.

  • doesn't want to go to the other parent's house.

Trish can offer strategies on what to do when you child:

  • calls you by your first name instead of 'Mom' or 'Dad.'

  • says "Daddy/Mommy let's us stay up late" or 

"Daddy/Mommy lets us stay home by ourselves." or

Mommy/Daddy says bad things about you. 

 

3. Take Emotional Responsibility

One of the most damaging things a parent can do is use their child as an emotional support & make them privy to adult issues.

Parents have a duty to develop healthy coping strategies and acquire appropriate support so they don't rely on their child for emotional support.

Trish will help you become mindful of the coping behaviors you exhibit because your children are watching and learning from you.

Children learn how to handle conflict from you,

so be a responsible teacher. 

Trish can help you:

  • Tell your child you are getting a divorce in an age appropriate way.

  • Exhibit healthy coping strategies

  • Make it safe for your child to tell you how they feel without fear of upsetting you.

 

4. Maintain Your Agency

One of the most important things a parent can do for a child is to

love your child more than you hate your ex.

 

Parents have a duty to develop healthy coping strategies & obtain appropriate support so they don't rely on their children for emotional support.

Divorced parents often focus more on being right

than on being a parent.

Divorce can bring out the worst in people and you may find yourself behaving in ways you never thought possible...all because your emotions are out of control.  

 

When this happens you will most likely make decisions based on your feelings towards your ex instead of what is best for your child. 

I can't think of anything more troubling than allowing a stranger to make decisions that will affect my child in the long term.

Unless you relish having a 3rd party (judge, parent coordinator) make important decisions for your child and your family, it's imperative you learn how to act in the best interests of your child.  

As a parent it's crucial to do what it takes to ensure you are healthy enough to be the decision maker for your child, instead of having torelegate decision making authority to a 3rd party.

Doing this isn't easy not easy especially when dealing with a difficult ex.

Trish can help you:

  • establish firm boundaries

  • develop emotional regulation

  • prevent becoming influenced or traumatized by your ex's words or actions.

Parenting is tough but during a divorce it can be rough. Book your appointment with Trish today