Protect Your Children from
Divorce Conflict

1. Be the Safe Parent

Children need at least one steadfast, unconditional, safe parent

2. Trust Yourself

Develop confidence that will help you to stop questioning your parenting or become passive

3. Take Emotional Responsibility

Develop healthy coping strategies and avoid using your children as an emotional crutch

4. Maintain Your

 Agency

Make the decisions that are best for your children and avoid leaving it up to 3rd parties (judges, lawyers, and mediators)

1. Be the Safe Parent

Research indicates that as long as children have at least 1 parent who provides a stable, loving, safe environment, the child has a better chance of recovering from the divorce.

 

3 factors that will impact your child's well-being:

a) Conflict: intensity & duration.

b) Parenting: Quality over time.

c) Parent-Child relationship: Quality over time

Low exposure to conflict + Unconditional love & support +

Strong parent-child bond = Your child can then focus on their job 

JUST BEING a KID!

Trish can help you:

  • navigate & make sense of your emotions.

  • guide you through the turmoil of parenting during and after divorce. 

  • walk you through common parenting issues | dilemmas you may face.

  • strategize on how to handle them.

 

It's imperative we do whatever possible to protect our children from harm.

2. Trust Yourself

Ever heard the expression, "Walk in the room like you own the place"?

This is what you need to do when you are parenting in a family of divorce.

 

Not only will you doubt your parenting skills but others will too.

 

Expect your ex-spouse to criticize, judge, doubt & undermine your parenting skills too.

 

Your child needs you to be in control and be their rock.

 

Children crave stability and consistency.

That is the type of parenting you need to provide.

 

Trish can teach you what to do when:

  • your child says "Daddy/Mommy let's us stay up late" or

  • your child says "Daddy/Mommy lets us stay home by ourselves."

  • your child doesn't want to go to the other parent's house.

  • your child tells you that Daddy/Mommy is saying bad things about you.

Your child needs YOU to be the ADULT so THEY can be the CHILD.

 

Trish can help you:

  • gain confidence in your parenting ability

  • gain confidence in your decision making

  • be clear about the value system that you are trying to instill in your children. 

 

 

3. Take Emotional Responsibility

One of the most damaging things a parent can do is use their child as an emotional support and make them privy to adult issues.

One of the most damaging things a parent can do is use their child as an emotional support and make them privy to adult issues.

Parents have a duty to develop healthy coping strategies and acquire appropriate support so they don't rely on their child for emotional support.

 

Trish will help you become mindful of the coping behaviors you exhibit because your children are watching and learning from you.

Children learn how to handle conflict from you,

so be a responsible teacher. 

 

Trish can help you:

  • Tell your child you are getting a divorce in an age appropriate way.

  • Exhibit healthy coping strategies & ensure your child knows it is not their job to be your emotional support.

  • Make it safe for your child to tell you about their feelings without fear of upsetting you.

 

 

 

4. Maintain Your Agency

One of the most damaging things a parent can do is use their child as an emotional support and make them privy to adult issues.

Parents have a duty to develop healthy coping strategies & obtain appropriate support so they don't rely on their children for emotional support.

Divorced parents often focus more on being right than being a parent.

Unless you relish having a 3rd party (judge, parent coordinator) make important decisions for your child and your family, it's imperative you learn how to act in the best interests of your child.  

I can't think of anything more troubling than allowing a stranger to make decisions that will affect my child in the long term.

As a parent it's crucial to do what it takes to ensure you are healthy enough to be the decision maker for your child, instead of having to relegate decision making authority to a 3rd party.

Doing this isn't easy not easy especially when dealing with a difficult ex.

 

Trish can help you:

  • establish firm boundaries

  • develop emotional regulation

  • prevent becoming influenced or traumatized by your ex's words or actions.

 

 

Parenting is tough. 
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Disclaimer: 

Trish Guise is not a licensed mental health professional. Sessions are offered as a parenting coach not as a therapist, counselor, nor any other licensed mental health or legal professional. Any information provided by Trish Guise is in no way intended to be legal advice.