Protect Your Children from Divorce Conflict

Children need at least one steadfast, unconditional,

safe parent

Develop confidence in your parenting ability - permissive parenting is not what kids need.

3. Take Emotional Responsibility

Develop healthy coping mechanisms - don't use your kids as an emotional crutch

Make the best decisions for your kids - so 3rd parties don't have to. 

1. Be the Safe Parent

2. Trust Yourself

4. Maintain Your
Agency

 

1. Be the Safe Parent

Research tells us that when a child has at least one safe, stable & loving caregiver, the child has a greater chance of recovering from the divorce.

 

Factors that Impact a Child's Well-Being:

Conflict: intensity & duration.

Parenting: quality not quantity.

Parent-Child Bond: quality not quantity

Do your emotions derail your actions?

Do you wonder what parenting issues are on the horizon?

Do you worry about how you will handle them?

If you said YES to any of those questions

then contact Trish To start working on it today.

2. Trust Yourself

"Walk into the room like you own the place"

-Words to live by when parenting in a family of divorce.  

 

Everyone questions their parenting abilities. But after a divorce, these doubts become magnified. We start to doubt ourselves even more than we did before & others begin to doubt us as well. We also find ourselves doubting the parenting abilities of our ex-spouse.

 

Fully expect your ex-spouse to criticize, judge, doubt & undermine your parenting skills...your job is to trust yourself as a parent and not allow your ex to undermine those feelings.

 Kids need their adults to be in control. That means you need to be in control of your emotions and not look to your children for validation. 

Kids crave stability & consistency. Kids crave emotional safety.

 

As a parent, it is your job to provide that for your children.

Your child needs YOU to be the ADULT so THEY can be the CHILD.

 

Does your child call you by your 1st name instead of 'Mom' or 'Dad'?

Does your child tell you they like it better at their other parent's house?

Does your child say things like "Dad/Mom let's us stay up late"

Does your child say things like "Dad/Mom lets us stay home by ourselves?"

Do you want to gain confidence in your parenting ability & decision making?

Do you want  clarify he values you want to instill in your children?

 

If you answered YES to any of these questions,

book an appointment with Trish to work on 

gaining that parenting confidence your kids

desperately need you to have. 

 

3. Take Emotional Responsibility

One of the most damaging things a parent can do is use their child as an emotional support & make expose them to adult issues.

Parents have a duty to develop healthy coping strategies & appropriate support so they don't rely on their child for emotional support.

We need to be mindful of the coping behaviors we exhibit because our children are watching and learning from us.

Children learn how to handle conflict from YOU.

Bee a responsible teacher.

Do you struggle with how to tell your child about the divorce?

Do you want to develop healthy coping strategies?

Do you kids not tell you things because they worry about upsetting you?

 

If you answered YES to any of these questions, book an appointment with Trish to work on gaining that parenting confidence your kids desperately need you to have. 

 

4. Maintain Your Agency

Important thoughts for every divorced parent:

 Love Your Child More than You Hate Your Ex

 

Don't Focus on Being Right; Focus on Being a Parent

Divorce can bring out the worst in people so you may find yourself behaving in ways you never thought possible.

Emotions seem to take over diverting your

focus away from what really matters.

 

Decisions start being made based on the negative feelings between the parents instead of what is best for their child.

If you're at this stage, be aware that you're

dangerously close to ending up in court,

having a stranger make life altering

decisions for your children.  

If you don't relish the thought of having an

unknown 3rd party make important decisions

for your child and your family,

it's time to make changes to

protect the best interests of your children.

Are you struggling to establish & maintain boundaries with your ex? Finding it difficult ot emotioally regulate because you're triggered by your ex's actions or words?
If YES, then book an appointment with Trish today.